At a Wellesley College commencement speech when she was New York City Commissioner of Human Rights, Eleanor Holmes Norton said:
“The question has been asked, “What is a woman?” A woman is a person who makes choices. A woman is a dreamer. A woman is a planner. A woman is a maker, and a molder. A woman is a person who makes choices. A woman builds bridges. A woman makes children and makes cars. A woman writes poetry and songs. A woman is a person who makes choices. You cannot even simply become a mother anymore. You must choose motherhood. Will you choose change? Can you become its vanguard?”
You can chose change, or you can let it happen, but you cannot avoid it.